By now you should have divined my position on casual drinking, but if you need it spelled out for you it is a solid "p-o-u-r-m-e-a-n-o-t-h-e-r". This is especially true and relevant now that I am a father of two. I believe that children are a wonderful addition to our lives, and that there is still room to enjoy the trappings of modern day adult-hood. We are smack-dab in the middle of a new era of cocktail culture. From Portland hipsters to the Charleston old-guard, everyone is getting into the game to provide new, stimulating recipes, ingredients and tools the likes of which have never been available before. That, coupled with the craft beer and spirits movement of the past 10 years makes this an incredible time to enjoy a good drink.
I must confess that I was a bit of a reluctant parent. While the idea of having kids was not overtly frightening, there did come along with it a healthy dose of resolution that perhaps my life as a carousing, early thirty-something adult was going to get locked down pretty hard. I believe every man goes through this uncertainty in his own way, on his own journey to parenthood. We have to wonder how much are we going to give up, all of course without knowing the upside – that’s growing up though.
I made some commitments to myself when I agreed to become a dad. First among them was not to become one of those Hollywood style sad-sack fathers who bumble around from misadventure to misadventure with one kid in a bjorn and the other punching them in the dick. Instead, I committed to making sure that both my kids’ and my well-being would not suffer as a result of this new lifestyle.
So what does this all have to do with Old Fashioned Parenting? Just this – even though you are now a parent you need not abandon everything that defined you as a childless bon-vivant. Go out and have a drink, sir. Make it part of your life instead of hiding it away in a cabinet with the good china, only for holidays and weddings. Be responsible and have fun, because it’s 1700 somewhere.